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Searching for Love in ALL of the Wrong Places

Many of you are familiar with the song, “Searching for Love in All of the Wrong Places” by Johnny Lee;

“I was lookin’ for love in all the wrong places,

Lookin’ for love in too many faces,

Searchin’ their eyes and lookin’ for traces,

Of what I’m dreamin’ of.

Hopin’ to find a friend and a lover;

I’ll bless the day I discover

Another heart lookin’ for love.”

Do those words sum up your search for love? It did mine. Have you ever been so desperate to feel loved that you have made bad choices? Oh, I have!

Why? Why do I keep making such poor choices?

Since my late teens, I have cried out to God saying all I want is to feel loved. “Why won’t you give me someone that will love me wholeheartedly, completely?”

Have you had those late night conversations with God too?

Have you looked back into your past and decisions / choices that you have made and see you were looking in all of the wrong places for love?

Do you feel like you do not deserve to be loved? Why? Deep down inside of your hearts of hearts, why?

Have you ever thought that you are searching, wanting something so badly that it has made you vulnerable to the wrong kind of person?

Knock, knock! Did you hear me?

You have become vulnerable to the wrong kind of person! How do we change that? Through Godly Counsel.

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Let me give you a brief as possible synopses of my love life history;

I got married when I was 20 years old. In hindsight, we were way too young and definitely not ready for marriage. The only good thing that came out of it are my 3 beautiful, strong daughters. My husband at the time, had many “relationships” with women that worked for him. I remember telling him before we got married that the only thing that I have zero tolerance for is unfaithfulness.

My next relationship I met at Church. That is where you will meet a good Christian, loyal man, right? Not always! It started out great, having someone that was encouraging me, supporting what I did career wise and liking my children.

In the end, he was an excellent manipulator, narcissist person, which smelled my vulnerability and went straight for the jugular. I stayed in the relationship way too long because I was scared; felt like a failure once again and was not sure what my ex-husband would do.

Then I went through a stage of, “if men can just mess around, I can as well!” Well, that did not work at all. There was one small problem. Sexual intimacy means a lot to me. It is precious. I always felt that sex was meant for a couple that love each other and to become closer to each other. That it was sacred. Intimacy was way too important to me to just throw it away like that.

After that stage, I did not date for a long time. I did not trust my judgement in men. And at the same time, I was praying / crying to God, why wouldn’t He put a man in my life?!

Well the next man that was put into my life was a married man. Everything that I was against, right? Oh, he knew all the right things to say; he has been wanting a divorce for a long time but was concerned for his kids. That I was so different from anyone he knew. We would talk, a lot. I loved that. We talked about his relationship. Dreams. Family. He asked about my divorce and how my kids handled it. Started out so innocent. Then I realized I was falling in love with him – a married man! We had so much fun together. The most fun I have ever had in a relationship so far. He promised he would not drag me into his divorce. Wrong. I ended up right smack in the middle of it. But I loved him and stood by him and kept thinking of our future together…we are no longer together.

A year ago October, I sat on my porch steps in the pouring rain, sobbing my eyes out. Yelling at God, “Why?” “Why can’t I find a man to be in an everlasting, until death do us apart, loving relationship?” “You know that is all I ever wanted God!” And then, so clear, as if He was sitting right next to me, I hear Him say, “You are loved. I love you just as you are.” I cried out, “I know God. I know you love me but it isn’t the same.” Can you believe I said that? Oh I am not done. I went on to tell Him I need a human man that can be here for me. To hold me. To be there for me no matter what. During the good times. During the bad times. And all of the times in between. In other words, I was saying His love was not enough!

He said, “I am right here. You keep looking in all of the wrong places.”

When I heard that, after all of my whining and crying. I stopped and listened. And felt His all-embracing love for me.

I started getting back into His word. Studying His word. Joined a ladies bible study group. And started too finally to heal.

In my past relationships, the men in my life all cheated on me. What I realize now, is that how can you expect others to respect and love you, if you do not respect and love yourself? When you don’t stand up for what you believe in?

When you do not have confidence in yourself, and your relationship with Jesus Christ, you are an easy target to take an advantage of. If I did not love myself, how could I expect that from another?

What does the Bible say about Relationships and Love? Here are some of my favorites;

Colossians 3:12 – 14 “So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.”

Ephesians 4:2 “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Ephesians 4:25 – 27 “Therefore, each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. In your anger, do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.”

Ephesians 4:29, 31 – 32 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen…Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

1 Peter 4:8 “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 5 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Proverbs 3:3 – 4 “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablets of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.”

I now realize and understand that it is more important to love myself. As God sees me. I am working on it every day and will be, till the day I die.

However, now I can truly say I am fine being alone. That I am happy being with me. (And my dogs!)

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I am also learning how to pray properly.

I used to pray how I wanted a man in my life. No specifics. (Be careful what you ask for!) Now I pray for exactly what I want in my life and if it is God’s will, it will happen. If not, then I am fine with that as well.

So stop searching for love in all of the wrong places. You will never find it there.

Start loving yourself, working on yourself and your relationship with God.

You just may find a love greater than you ever imagined!

Starfish or Sea Star? No Matter the name, please do not touch!

Let’s start with just some general facts about Sea Stars (Starfish).

Scientific Name: Asteroidea

Type: Invertebrates4154255_orig

Diet: Carnivores

 

Average Life Span: Up to 35 years in the wild

Size 4.7 to 9.4 inches

Weight: Up to 11 lbs.

According to a National Geographic article, Marine Scientists are trying to get the name “Starfish” changed to “Sea Star”. Why? Simply because it is not a fish! It is an Echinoderm and related to the Sea Urchins and Sand Dollars.  Who knew, right?

Another interesting fact is that there are about 2,000 species of Sea Stars! You can find them in the warm Caribbean Seas to Cold water locations. The most popular and well-known species has 5 arms (star), however some can have up to 40 arms!

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These arms can be drop off to get away from a predator and can grow back within a year. The Sea Stars arms, have most of their vital organs in them. So an arm can grow into a Sea Star.

Some interesting facts about Sea Stars are;

Sea Stars do not have blood. They actually have filter seawater.cf3ebf5f01f9099b14f0fda114cce511--starfish-kennedy

 

Their eyes are on the tip of each arm. They cannot see color. The eye looks like a red spot. (hmmm, does that mean they have red eye syndrome? I know…bad joke!)

 

 

Brains? Nope. Nada. No one home.

Nervous System: Is spread throughout their arms.

Their bodies are bony and calcified skin and many wear striking colors to help them camouflage or scare off potential attackers.

Predators;

YOU! US! HUMANS! Are their worst predators in my humble opinion.

I live on a Tropical Island and it just saddens me watching the tourist taking them out of the water for pictures. Our tour guides are just as guilty and should know better. The cruise ship industry should also be more responsible in educating their guests.

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Did you know that they breathe by the little tubes that are all over their bodies? They have to be completely submerged to breathe. So you are suffocating them when you remove them from the water for that photo op.

People should avoid taking Sea Stars out of the water due to the irreversible damage it poses to their tissue. (Even for a few seconds out of water!). And if you have sunscreen on your hands, it is toxic to them.

So PLEASE, admire them from a far and respect their beauty as with the reef to keep the undersea world beautiful.

Okay, enough of the lecture.

Some other interesting information regarding Sea Stars is that they are predators. Their cute looks are deceiving! They can pretty much eat what they want as long as they can catch it. Using tiny suction-cupped tube feet, they pry open clams, osyters, etc and their stomach emerges from their mouth and oozes inside the shell. The stomach then envelopes the prey to digest it. When done, it withdraws back into their body. Sounds like something from a scary sci-fi movie! Gross and interesting at the same time.

This also makes them very important in helping to balance the marine biodiversity. They are key in keeping the balance of the sea. Who would have thought that of these docile Stars?

So as fascinating as Sea Stars are, please respect them. Admire them in their habitat and do not touch. So that our future generations can enjoy them as much as we do.

My Reflections

I have been sitting here reflecting over the past year.
So much has changed.
Last July, my world unexpectedly changed. My relationship of almost 9 years came to an end. I was scared, confused, numb, hurt and angry.

At times like those you learn who your friends are and who were never true friends. And at the same time, you are given new friends to help you get through it all. Thank you to those friends. You know who you are!

IMG_1213I had started attending a bible study occasionally before my world had changed. Those ladies listened and prayed for me. I did not know if I was going to stay or go back to the States. I had sold everything I had to take this adventure so I had nothing to go back too, and felt like such a failure (In my eyes).

My “second” Mom (really step-mom, however I do not see her that way), had offered for me to move to Georgia in a home that she has there but I couldn’t bring my dogs.  At the time, my puppies were and are my life. They love me no matter how my day has gone; if I am in a bad mood, and laid with me while I grieved for the life I had and contemplated my new reality. They are always happy to see me and such unconditional love! I just could not imagine leaving them.

There were such mix emotions. Should I go back home with my family and my daughters or staying on an island that I have come to love as well, which I know that my family does not understand why I love it here so.

Then looking at the job possibilities and knowing how the US looks down on the older generation in the work force or being in a place that welcomes the experience and talents of the older generation, as the island does.

I decided to just be quiet and listen. To stay in the word of God and see where He wants me to be. My Bible study group was so encouraging and helped me with my growth and I made some new wonderful friends.

I have had other friends that I have made, encourage me and challenge me in ways I could not have imagine and which I appreciate to no end as well.

I started enjoying my artistic side of me again; painting, cross stitch, doing yoga, doing sound again for my church (after 20 years) and other things I like to do. And just to be still and listened.

Today, sitting with my pups, I am so thankful for what I have been through for the past year and how it has allowed me to grow and start a new chapter. The good, bad and ugly. The growth that I have made spiritually; the growth I have made personally  and for the opportunities that I have been blessed with.

IMG_1215So what am I doing now?

It’s the island life for me so far!

I am helping some friends with their properties, helping a friend with his Bar & Grill and have started a new business called Beach Time Communications with my friend (and fellow blogger) Shelly.

And I can’t wait to go back to Georgia, Dallas & North Carolina; to visit my family (hopefully on a more regular basis soon) in a better frame of mind and a stronger person.

God IS good!
We cannot always see it when we are going through the darkness. He is always there guiding us, as long as we listen. And He will present amazing opportunities if we follow Him.

And who knows…you may become like me and have Sand Between Your Toes!

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Wish I had known that!

I am always getting messages from people asking how I like island life or what’s it like being an Expat. And for me, other than missing my daughters, I love it.

But island life is not for everyone.

So I decided to ask some of my Expat friends, what 3 things they wish they had known before they took that big leap and life-changing step of becoming an Expat.

So below you will find their comments and on some, I have added my 2-cents in italics.

Depending on the time you are reading this, pour yourself a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and read what they want to share with you. We hope it helps if you are considering becoming an Expat.

And of course, feel free to ask any questions you may have. I will be happy to answer the best that I can.

Get comfy in that chair and enjoy the read!

John  – Expat – Resort Manager / Real Estate Agent
No winter clothes, bring rain gear and bring your apostatized police record for residency

Heather – Expat / Teacher
1 – Have no expectations. For example, do not expect the grocery store to have milk, do not expect an establishment to be open at a realistic time, do not expect the pizza place to have pizza. When something does work out, you will be pleasantly surprised.

2 – Learn by observing. Spend a lot of time observing everyone around you, how things are done, what is not done, how things are communicated. I believe this is true of integrating into any new culture. Also, remember this takes a lot of time.
3 – For those of us that have to work, be prepared to feel undervalued. Have a mindset that you will continue to do your best without lowering your standards. Keep standards high while others may not have those same standards.

Nuria  – Expat / Dive Shop Owner
Power issues
I should be a boat mechanic myself
I guess one important is that this island usually separate to couples who arrive together but then…………always for a good reason I guess

Abby  – Expat / Retire
Number 1: know the cost of customs. It’s very expensive.
Number 2: don’t give anything to locals, make them earn it otherwise you become a “gringo” with a money tree in the backyard
No 3: Make peace with the fact that you will wear bug spray every day 2x day (I call it “Island Perfume”! And there are natural products that can be used instead of DEET. For many people, you will need to reapply more than 2x a day. And of course anytime you get out of the water re-apply.)

Helen  –Expat / Landscaping Business Owner
I would have kept a better journal.

Worn a hat more often and make a point of snorkeling at least once a week.

Caroline  – Expat / Retire
Well first of all , I lived overseas in Latin America for 10 years of my life, so coming to Roatan, I more or less knew what I was getting myself into.

1. Good linens, towels and sheets, back in 2005, there were none! Bring them! (Still a good idea!)
2. Residency, should have gotten it long ago! Apply for it when you know you are going to live here. (Roatan requires you to leave for 72 hours every 90 days)
3. Always believe half of what you see and nothing of what you hear! This place is the land of the fruits and nuts! Develop close friends and have only a few!

Rosalie Boileau – Expat – Author of “That Wasn’t in the Brochure”
I am not sure I have any insights that are new but here is my take…
1. This has been said many times…I would recommend living on the island for a minimum of 3 months before buying. We love our home and our proximity to shopping etc. But our friends and our hearts are in the east.
2. Be careful to trust and really do your homework. What is presented as a small problem or issue may be a bigger problem than you realize. Also gossip abounds and relationships on a small island can be difficult when your social circle is so tight.
3. Realize that living in paradise seems like an exciting and romantic idea but you are not on a vacation and you can’t live indefinitely at a party. You are living there and you need to make a life there.

Julia Siemensjsimens.com– Expat / Retire / Author of “Emotional Resilience and the Expat Child”
I wish I had NEVER thought about storing things for when I returned. Who knew it would be 28 years later! That was a huge shock to me to undo all those worthless things now – glad Kevin’s company paid the cost – I can’t imagine how pissed I would have been if I had had to pay for it all those years. But storage is a common issue with expats. #1

Depending on where you go or what job you take – sometimes you need police clearance. I wish I had gotten my local police clearance from Texas before we moved to Singapore (teaching work permit needed last five years of location for clearance – so that required a trip back to the USA. Now I collect police clearance from all of our perm. residency before I move away. #2

Take digital photos of everything! Important papers so you have their information quickly. What you packed in your multiple suitcases in case one of them goes missing. If you are keeping a home – photos of spaces you might want to put something new and size. I have a ton of friends who purchased things abroad and now they won’t fit into their homes. Kids school papers/art so you can throw away the huge binders or etc. And of course make a back up of all photos cloud them or etc so this historical part of your life is safe.

Susie (Thailand) – Expat / Retired
I can not answer that question, we were traveling around for 17 years on our boat, and we landed in Roatan for 3 years we stayed. I can not think of anything. Now moving to Thailand I could answer,
Apply for long term Visa’s before leaving.
Find a bank that do not charge wire transfer fees.
Understanding how long it takes to get funds from the states, with out a charge to get it there

Gail – Expat / Retired
1 The condition of the roads.
2 Environmental concerns…We hear Henry Morgan’s generator.
3. Insurance concerns….Having theft coverage,
we were told you have to have bars on the windows and doors.

Shelly Hood Burich – Expat / Blogger – allpathsleadtoroatan.blogspot.com/ & Business Owner
1. If driving into Honduras and the rest of Central America, make sure you know about the many stops and each border when entering a country. It is not the same as crossing a border from the USA to Canada for example. Separate temporary registration applies to each vehicle requiring a paper permit and usually a tag on your vehicle windshield.
2. When travelling with pets, either by air or driving, ensure you have all the correct paperwork for your animals and carry at least five copies of each animals vaccination records. Contact your veterinarian who can make all the necessary arrangements for the correct shot and having a federal veterinarian sign off on the paperwork.
3. Whatever you figure out your budget for moving to another country such as Honduras, add at least 20 per cent. There are many hidden fees and you also have to add a factor for the corruption among government officials.
4. Be patient. Nothing ever happens quickly on the island. Take the time to smell the roses, so to speak!

Dian – Business Owner
Well giving this a lot of thought.. I am not much help. 28 yrs ago I would have…
#1 invested in a lot of land
#2 sold all my stuff that sat in storage for 3 yrs sooner.
# brought lots of tampons (they only had pads back then)
Other than that I would not then or now change a thing…😎

Diana  – Expat / Dive Instructor
Transportation: if you are going to buy a car on the island, it can be fairly expensive for a car not in the best shape. Best bet is to live on the island for a bit, use the taxis and search for a good, reliable island car. Better suggestion would be to buy one in San Pedro or Le Ceiba and ferry it to the island.

Random supplies: although we have the means to find most things on the island, specific medicines, pet supplies are sometimes easier bought at Target/Walmart in the states and brought to the island.

Housing: housing is very different on the island. Not always easy to find housing that is pet friendly. Best to visit the island and live here for several months (at least 6 months) before moving here permanently. Living on the island isn’t for every one. It can feel confined to some and finding a job isn’t as easy as one might think. Most jobs go to residents/locals first. Also, rate of pay is considerable less than one might expect to see. Must be willing to make a complete change of living to make it work here.

Establish a group of expat friends that can help you with questions and issues that come up. This is key, especially if some of these friends have lived on the island for several years and know how to navigate around!!

Ginnie  – Expat / Business Owner
1. I wish I had known how difficult and expensive it is to bank in Honduras. I had no idea the banks were so behind the times.

2. I wish I had known how difficult and expensive it was to move down here. I moved everything I own in a 40′ container. Not sure if I would do that again.

3. I wish I had known how difficult and expensive it is to ship things down here. I was so excited when I made the move no one would’ve talked me out of it. Now I live on the ocean in a nice beach house. I have learned patience like never before and I am so extremely grateful for having the opportunity to live on an island in the Caribbean.

Paul – Expat / Business Owner
I went to work too fast starting a business
Stay away from the local women
Another one would be don’t buy a car to fast make sure you know what you’re buying there’s a lot of salvage titles on the island, wrecked cars from the US.

Annie – Expat / Real Estate Agent
1) I would have researched residency lawyers more thoroughly

2) I would have kept and brought more of my photos of my family and friends.

3) I would have bought more bathing suits.
4) One of the many things that I love about our move to Roatan is that I came to understand the difference. I had so much “stuff” that I thought I couldn’t live without. One discovers that you can live and be truly happy without all that stuff.

Kim – Expat / Missionary
1) Some days in paradise are still hard. You cry, you feel like taking a nap, you feel blah and realize that when you live here it’s not vacation. It’s home.
2) Eat like the locals. Chicken, seafood, rice, beans, fresh fruit. It’s harder to cook home recipes here.
3) Respect and love the people here. They are so loyal and will love you back!

Trish  – Expat / Retire
I wish I’d have known that if you have an auto accident with a Honduran, you will most likely have to pay, regardless of whose fault it was.

I wish I’d have known to buy more stuff at home I cant get here so I wouldn’t have to pay to have it shipped.

I wish I”d have realized that it wouldn’t be as hard to acclimate to the weather (for me, at least) and way of life….we could have moved here permanently 2 years sooner!

Kristin & Scott – Expats / Artist / Musician / Business Owners
Scott and I just talked about your questions. We really had done a lot research…got all our stuff together for residency…we came very prepared to start our life here. and of course things have changed and actually are easier now.

I think the one thing we would have done different was to come here…rent first and then purchase or invest. 12 years ago the market was going up and we felt like we needed to jump into something. But now I suggest people come rent first. Take their time looking.

I was glad we had spent a lot of time in 3rd world countries so we understood how slow things would move….don’t bring high 1st world perfectionist expectations…and try to learn some Spanish before …if you can…and mostly…leave the STATUS behind. Or move to St. Barts….haha…So these are more suggestions than what we wish we had known…just do a lot of research…come for a visit and ask a zillion questions…I hate to see people get sour on the Island …when it really was them with too high of expectations…and come with a hobby or something you’d like to do or you will get lost in the bars….good luck…

Karen  – Expat / Retire
Our move here was very positive. One thing I would make sure I was fluent in Spanish, classes are more prevalent in Canada. Since we drove here it would have come in handy. It is becoming more and more necessary on the island. That the vet was only on the island once a week. (A vet can be hard to get at times, especially for an emergency)

Megan  – Expat / Business Owner
Brought less stuff with me to the island…. that mainland Honduras is actually an ok place to go if you need to buy a car….. That I would wish I had decided to leave the USA Years and years before

Bonnie  –Expat / Property Manager
1. I wish we had known the depth and intensity of systemic corruption in Honduras.
2. I wish we had done some more research on Honduran culture.
3. I wish I had known how many wonderful friendships we would make here, I wouldn’t have been so nervous.

Debbie-Leigh Crofutt – Expat / Retire / Blogger – mermaidonaraft.com/
Two of things I wish I had done differently and one thing I wish I knew.

I wish I had put more thought into the building and design of our house instead of being so anxious to finally get it. It’s very difficult to make changes to a concrete home. I wish we had seriously upgraded our windows. We thought we were getting good windows, they were expensive, however when 17000 wood lice or 57 June bugs can get inside when the screened windows are closed and locked, I realize that we didn’t get what we paid for.

One thing I wish I knew was how much lizard poop I would be cleaning on a daily basis. They have no morals when it comes to what they poop on. (hahaha! She is right on this one! I have to sweep my porch every morning.)

Chris  – Expat / Resort Owner
I sure there’s loads of things that people have to say – but I like to keep a
Few things as a remainder…
Many, many things have changed over the years that may not be relevant now..
I suppose the reality of building anything here you have to have at least 20% burn fund – for the incidentals of Island life
The reality of Island time – not only do things take Longer – not because
It doesn’t exist but locals don’t always understand every concept that we as foreigners have – so not only are we Bringing new ideas but new ways of thinking … so things may take longer as we are Paying people to learn
Also along the lines of Island time – the amount of time required to move around the island to achieve anything – sometimes you need to have ‘wasted’ days in order to achieve the basics
Finally – I think all advice is valuable but not all advice is relevant to everyone’s individual circumstances- so listen too many – take the things that you need to move forwards and not let everyone else’s personal experiences create a jaded perspective
One last thing – it would have been great to have a list of expats who are on island and their trade, present or past. And if they were open to give advice, help, to be contacted.

Maria & Tim  – Expat / Restaurant Owners
1. Leave all leather at home. 2. Don’t worry about the US reports that it’s dangerous. 3. Go to Le Voyage for your welcome (1st) dinner.

Dave – Expat / Musician
The only significant item that comes to mind is banking. Had I known that the banking rules would change so often and erratically I would have kept more of my Canadian accounts active. I can no longer use PayPal and constantly have problems with Honduran issued debit cards. That’s my only grief as I think we embraced the fact we were moving to a remote underdeveloped island in a 3rd world country and with research handled the transition well while keeping an understanding and flexible mind set along the way.

 

 

Miss Scottie C to You!

Since Scottie (MISS Scottie C to you, is what she is thinking) is 4 years old this month, I thought I would share with you all about this Sassy and at times, lovable cat. 

One May night in 2013, we had a local musician playing at our restaurant by the name of Scotty C. While he was on a break between sets, he heard a noise in our wood pile by the smoker. He reached in and pulled out the smallest kitten ever. She was so small she fit in the palm of my hand! 

photo (28)Scott brought her over too me among all of the oh’s and ah’s from our restaurant guests. Poor thing was hungry and scared. 

Wphoto (29)e only had a very small bowl (it was bigger than her!) that we put some milk in. She wasn’t to sure what to do with it. At first she put her whole face in it! After licking her face off, she quickly figured out how to drink it. 

The guest all said we need to keep her. She has a perfect patch work of colors on her back, so I thought “Patches” but our guests said “No. It needs to be called Scottie C.”

Scott walked over picked the kitten up and checked her then said, “The kitten is a girl.” And everyone at once said “So what!” 

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Miss Scottie C with Scotty C on her 1 year Birthday

Meanwhile, Rob was just shaking his head saying he hates cats and it is NOT coming into the condo. 

The next day, first thing Rob does, is go down to check on the kitten. By the end of the day, he had brought her upstairs. I just smiled to myself and thought “so much for hating cats.”  

Rob and Scottie had become quite the pair. She always slept on him. Rob would walk around the Resort with her perched on his shoulder like a parrot. It was so adorable. 

Scottie loved the resort dogs (Boomba and Gimps) especially Gimps. She would follow him and try to snuggle with him. He tolerated her barely. But, if she sounded like she was in trouble outside, Boomba and Gimps would run to her rescue. 

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She has been very entertaining and has used up a couple of her 9 lives that I know of. When we still lived at the resort, she fell , rather slid off of the roof of a unit.

Ended up with a bloody nose. And another time she was out on the balcony with us and sleeping on the ledge and fell right off! She was dazed and looked like “what just happened?!” Scared me too death!

She now just tolerates me and my dogs. She will snuggle with me then bite me and walk off or she will rub against the dogs, especially Sable, as they look at me not sure what to do and then she will swat at them. Just sassy as she can be. Now I think I should have named her that!

One lucky cat I think!

We Really Did it!

After four years of island life, I have finally decided to start my blog that so many friends have asked me to do.

I will start with a brief history of how I got to Roatan. Then from here on I will entertain you with pictures, my personal thoughts, my crazy pets and the work I do here from property management to business consulting.

So here we go!

I sold, donated or gave away most that I owned and moved to Roatan in January 2013 with my significant other at the time. We used to talk about retiring in the Caribbean. With life changes the opportunity came up and we had decided on Roatan.

We originally thought we would do something with boating, however, one day I Googled Businesses for Sale in Roatan and came across a restaurant with a condo on top of it at a quaint Resort in Sandy Bay. I contacted the Real Estate agent and the next thing I knew we were flying down to check it out. The restaurant is located right on the beach and is open aired. The condo was a quaint studio with an upper level that has an absolutely beautiful view of the caribbean sea. We looked at each other and said, “how can we not do this.” It was perfect with great view, a place to live and a business to sustain us.

After Thanksgiving, we made an offer and we negotiated back and forth and by Mid-December we had an accepted offer. What blew our minds was that we were to take over on February 1, 2013. That gave us barely a month a half to be prepared to move. We had thought it would be 6 months or so before we would have to take over!

There was a lot of mix emotions. You are exited, scared, worrying about your kids, anxious, tired and then excited again. Then the next thing you know you are sitting in a hammock with a cocktail in your hand and you are thinking, “Wow! We really did this!”

There is a lot of positive things about island life, and unfortunately, a lot of bad; which can pull a couple apart. So now, my dogs (Sable & Bandit), a sassy Calico cat named Miss Scottie C (another story down the road) and I are on our own adventure.